Happy June, friends! Today I'm introducing Monday Mantra. A weekly post to start your week off in a positive direction. The first Monday Mantra is BE THE FIRST.
We've all been there. Perhaps someone has wronged you, or you didn't get your way, or perhaps you were at fault in a disagreement. It's incredibly easy to huff and puff and gripe about it. It's so easy to sit around and wait for the other person to come along and apologize or initiate a conversation. Know what's hard? Being the first one to step up and communicate, clarify, or clear the air. It's hard to extend that damn olive branch.
So what's a girl to do? Click through to find out the simple solution, what's much harder, and how you can Be The First.
But, in all fairness, there is something much worse than your ego feeling slightly bruised, and that is doing nothing at all. I've watched friendships and relationships in my world, and the world around me, dissipate simply because too much time has passed before anything is said. Too many assumptions and stories have been created in both minds, too many fears about not being good enough, or going too far with words, or feeling regretful but still staying silent. Nobody wants to get to that place. Sure, are there times where certain people are removed from your life, even if you don't understand it? Yes, absolutely. Are there times where you can reach out but the other person involved won't reach back? Yep. But more likely than not, they, too, are scared and fabricating all sorts of things in their mind, and if you can just be brave for a few minutes, you'll find them waiting for you.
Let's be straight up: this is really hard to do. It's hard to not just talk about it with your friends and listen as they say you're right. It's hard to keep it to yourself while you process what you honestly think, and be still with what you honestly know you need to do. And then it's hard to actually do it. I get it. But so what? For so long I loved being upset. Loved, loved, loved it. Let me be super clear, that quote up there is 100% true. Who cares what your silly ego is saying. People want to be loved and if you choose love over upset, you win. It's that simple. You win so much. You truly will feel braver, stronger, and happier.
This Monday Mantra, of course, does not only apply to issues or quarrels. Be The First to ask that quiet girl to join your group of friends. Be The First to stand up for someone or something that matters to you. Be The First to try a new way of creating or doing. Be The First in your family to do something completely different. Be The First who doesn't go along with what everyone else has done before you, or what everyone around you seems to be doing. You were not created to be just another follower amongst the growing crowd. You were born to live a wild and full life. And sometimes, a lot of sometimes, that means choosing to squeeze your eyes shut, and make the scary phone call or send the text, fingers trembling and all. It means choosing to Be The First.
What's something in your life you can choose to Be The First with this week? Tell me in the comments or on instagram. xo